How do I.......

How do I hook into the many blogging networks (and which ones are the best) and boost our hits?????? Mrs JABA did tell me the other night BUT it was very late by that stage and my memory is not what it used to be.

So if you can help me ... I would be grateful!

Also, can I link a blog I like to this one without permission? I need help on blogging etiquette as well please.

Thanks in advance for your comments .....